In my years as a church planter, I’ve learned a thing or two. Here are my five practical considerations for the church planting process:<\/p>\n
If there isn\u2019t someone on your team who can tell you when you\u2019re wrong without starting a fight, you\u2019ll end up with an ineffective ministry. Your partners will help you edit your work, behavior, and foundation so that the community that grows from those norms is not adversely affected. Work with someone who has different skills and a different perspective on your shared vision. With at least two people collaborating on the vision others start to see and participate in the vision separate from the leadership, rather than seeing one charismatic leader as the only source of vision.<\/p>\n
This is not about the music you like, the sermons you want to preach, the people you want to hang out with. This isn\u2019t about how charming or not charming you are or how many people like you. And when someone hates your preaching, that isn\u2019t about you either. You will constantly be representing other powers and principalities to people, and you will be regularly tripping over the triggers of people\u2019s traumas. Try to walk gently, to listen, to apologize, to hear what people need you to hear. Continue to preach the Good News as it is given to you for the people you are called to.<\/em><\/p>\n Particularly early on you are building a communal DNA. People are building an implicit or explicit understanding of what it is that we do and don\u2019t do here. Don\u2019t let someone\u2019s unaddressed inappropriate behavior confuse the forming community, or worse invite them to act in kind. Some people won\u2019t appreciate their behavior being addressed\u2014but the good news is there are likely plenty of churches in your local area that would be happy to welcome them and not address their bad behavior.<\/p>\n Put it on your walls; as the Old Testament tells us, post it over your doors. People don\u2019t know what church congregations do and people don\u2019t know what they\u2019re supposed to do upon entering a church. They feel nervous and insecure about their behavior, their clothes, their skills, their pasts. When you invite them to do or not do certain things, invite everyone together. Explain why we do whatever you are asking folks to do, and make it clear that you didn\u2019t expect everyone walking in to just already know. It is the difference between these two scenarios: A new mom with a crying baby feels uncomfortable because she doesn\u2019t know whether to wait it out or leave the service, and even if she were to leave, she has no idea where to go in a strange building. Or, a scenario wherein a pastoral leader or liturgist announces to the congregation, brand new visiting mom included, that one of our joys as a church is to worship together and that the laughter and crying and shifting of people of all ages reminds us that God is with us, that if anyone needs to step out or use the restroom it is down the hall to the left.<\/p>\n Children recognize when you respect them, and if you only offer them faith experiences that you would never undertake yourself, they learn pretty quickly that faith practices are something they will outgrow. Adults will follow your lead as well. When you are willing to be childish, communal vulnerability will grow from there. The same principle is true for answering the questions you ask in Bible study or around the table at dinner. People get their queues on the appropriate level of vulnerability from the leader in their midst. Be willing to be honest and be willing to seem silly.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n3. When you see unhealthiness, address it.<\/h2>\n
4. Explain who you are and what you do\u2014everywhere.<\/h2>\n
5. Be willing to do what you ask the children to do.<\/h2>\n